I’ve struggled big time with this one over the years.
Here’s the scenario: you know what your dream is, you know what you want to do, you know what you need to do, it’s time to day it, taking daily action, but you’re mind is saying something totally different – it’s saying: I don’t have the energy, or It’s going to be too difficult – I’ll never succeed, or I want to watch TV.
For others the restrictive thinking might look something more like: But am I doing the right thing? or am I wasting my time? Or for others still: What if it doesn’t workout, what if I fail? Will this have just been a massive waste of time? (Of course it WON’t have been a waste of time – you will have learned that this course of action was not the one you’re going to succeed with – and that is a powerful piece of information!)
This kind of thinking can be unbelievably frustrating when you want to achieve a goal to improve the quality of your life and the quality of life for those around you.
If you pay too much attention to those thoughts, you’ll find yourself in a battle within your own mind and body. On the one side, you have your thoughts about what you’ve decided you want to create in your life. On the other side, you have thoughts telling you its going to be impossible to achieve.
In my experience there’s only one way through this uncomfortable predicament. There’s only one thing that can start to sway the battle in favour of your new positive dream. This one thing has the power to make that shift relatively quickly. Sometimes within 10 minutes and almost always within 30 minutes. Here’s what it is…
Begin taking action NOW, in-spite of what your mind is telling you
If you want to tip the balance and really start motoring forward towards your dreams – using each and every moment of your life well, you have to develop the will to take action when everything else – your mind and body – is telling you that you really don’t want to.
This can feel like an extremely difficult thing to do, until you actually start doing it. But once you start, you realise that it is actually far easier than you ever possibly imagined it to be.
The difficult thing is enduring the negative and fearful thoughts in your mind – that’s the difficult thing. Actually taking action is far simpler. It’s much more basic. There’s no room to second guess yourself.
So, if your goal is to become a good runner, you’re going to have to start running. So, the time has come to start taking positive daily action in the direction of this goal, but your mind is giving you all the rubbish thoughts that are never going to support your goal – It’s going to be too difficult – I don’t have the energy etc.
So there’s nothing else you can do. You have to put your running shoes on, get outside, and start putting one foot in front of the other.
Now let’s look at this. Is it difficult to put your running shoes on? Maybe you sit on a stool, slip your feet inside the soft, comfortable shoes, one at a time, before tying up the laces. Then you stand up. Was that difficult?
Next you walk outside the front door and lock it behind you. Was that difficult?
Next you start a gentle jog – nothing too excessive – the goal is to start taking positive action – not to achieve your goal this week!! So you put one foot in front of the other, gently jogging along the sidewalk. You look at the trees, the cars, the road. Maybe you’re even listening to your favourite music. You monitor your breath. If it feels too laboured you slow down a little, so as to not over-exert yourself. You see through your self-agreement to do it for 15 minutes a day. Is this so difficult?
Isn’t the really difficult thing accommodating the negative dialogue that goes on in your head?
How to stop the negative self talk
I’ll tell you now – you cannot turn off the negative dialogue in your head – at least not directly.
BUT what you can do is start taking action in-spite of the negative voice. The only thing you have to do is to not give in to your negative mind.
Then what you’ll find is that, if you’re working each and every day towards your dreams and goals, your mind will naturally begin to reshape itself to support your efforts. Your mind will begin to fall in to line.
But one thing I’m sure of is this. If you’re waiting for your mind to become more friendly before you begin taking positive action, you’ll be waiting forever, and you’ll never get there.
Tomorrow let’s talk about the other polarity – taking too much action too quickly. Which is also totally detremental to your ability to achieve your goals.